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bwheeler2002-
I have been lurking for a while. I used to
post when DH first has his reversal but then as time passes without a bfp I quit posting as often. Here is a brief history
of our story:
My DH and I were high school
sweethearts: I became pregnant with dd #1 at the age of 17. We waited until she was three to get married due to college, etc.
We immediately had dd #2 the following year; (which was also the year I graduated from college). I like to stress myself out
with new baby and new life changes I guess!!! When dd #2 was only 9 months old I became pregnant with our youngest dd. So
long story short we had three little girls under 5 and new careers, poor from student loans, and etc. We let peer pressure
from others, as well as pressure from our parents push us towards a vasectomy. In our hearts we knew it wasn't something we
wanted to do. We almost walked out of the dr.'s office and even inquired on reversal costs. So we were sad immediately but
began to accept our decision. When my daughter turned two I started really pursuing the reversal. I lurked on many boards
and researched Dr.'s. My OB/GYN suggested that we try someone local due to our ages, and the short time since the vasectomy.
He really spoke high of Dr. Bradley Davis who actually performed the original vasectomy so that is who we contacted. We had
a consultation in January of 2002 which was exactly 2 years after the vasectomy; the Dr. seemed very knowledgable but he did
only perform on average 1 reversal per week. My DH and I left the consultation saying if we still wanted a baby in one
year we would go for the reversal. The next 6 months I just kept thinking what are we waiting for and we decided to schedule
the surgery. The surgery was Oct. 2, 2003 and went very well. SA results have been great in all catergories except motility.
His recent counts have bounced around 82 - 100 million but motility is only averaging around 13-15%. I have been working with
my ob/gyn the entire process; Dr. Bishop. He is so supportive and has always been in my corner because he was my ob/gyn with
all three girls and in a sense has watched us grow up as parents from age 17 to 28. He suggested IUI at my annual exam due
to the motility issue and the length of time we had been trying. I have been charting and he has also checked the usuals,
follicle scans, uterin lining etc. to make sure I am not the problem. We are doing a natural cycle with the HCG trigger shot
and two back to back IUI's this cycle. Research shows that with Male Factor a later IUI is sometimes more effective than the
usual 24 hours post trigger. I had cd 1 on October 29th so I am looking at IUI's around the 9-12th of November depending on
what the us of the follicles reveals as to when I will ovulate. My follicle scan is scheduled for cd 11 due to the fact that
I usually ovulate on cd 13. I also chart and use opk for timing. We are hoping they just need a little jump start to make
it there. DH is so great and has always jumped onto whatever I need him to. My oldest daughter who is now 10 & 1/2 is
not excited at all and I would say down right upset about us trying to have another baby. DD #2 is supportive of anything
(very loving little girl) and DD #3 only wants a boy because deep down she doesn't want to share the spotlight.
UPDATE: Twin Girls Born 11/11/2005!
Brandy
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cherylr95- Like a lot of the stories on this site…I had children when I was very young…when
I met my husband, I was very young with two babies..(ex didn’t want anything to do with the girls because they were
not boys..etc) When we got married my hubby adopted the girls and we decided to have "one" more…I was 21 with three
babies and we decided that was enough…now here we are 10 years later and have decided that we have great jobs a great
home and family and would like to add to that joy with "one" more child….My job as a MCH and Pedi nurse really provoked
the desire for a baby and will allow me to keep the baby with me most of the time while I am working.....
Bennett born 4/17/2006!
-Cheryl
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jessirach-When I met DH I knew almost
immediately that he was my soul mate and the love of my life. Our courtship was fast, within 2 months of meeting we
were engaged and planning our wedding. Shortly after we started dating DH told me that after his DD was born he had
a vasectomy because he was married to her mother and didn't want any more children with her. The marriage failed and
he mostly dated women who already had children. He didn't think his surgery would be an issue. However he knew
with me that it would be. I wanted children and longed to have a larger family than one daughter. We began looking
into the cost of the surgery and the chances that it would work. I had no idea if I had issues with fertility since
I had always been very careful but had never even had so much as a scare. We found a doctor, Dr Stack who seemed very
good and had about a 50% pg rate with his patients. Sounded good to us since there was no accounting for fertility issues
with the mother in his studies. We had the VR in April and in May began the baby dance. Disappoint came with each
visit of AF. In August we got the SA results, DH had only 1000 sperm, but their motility was great. However Dr.
Stack was not optimistic that we would conceive without medical intervention. DH remained positive - but I stopped charting....little
did we know we had already conceived Liam the weekend prior. We are hoping that God blesses us again with another wonderful
child.
Jessi
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jessndave3kids- I had three children before the
age of 23, at the time it seemed (because I even got pregnant on birth control once) that the Vasectomy was a good idea. However
I was 9 months pregnant at the time, and really regretted it not long after. By the time my youngest son was 2, I REALLY wanted
another baby and was so upset with the decision we made. After many conversations and convincing my husband who was scared
to go through another surgery- that he figured would be more intensive. We finally had it reversed at the end of March 2005.
I of course was hoping for a BFP right away- who doesn't??? After all the Vasectomy Reversal seemed to take long enough to
accomplish....and after 9 cycles of TTC...I was getting a little discouraged and helping a friend through her pregnancy- kind
of living vicariously through her... then this month I am 10 days late, some spotting made me doubtful that I was pregnant
but I tested anyway and just got a BFP! This still needs to be confirmed by a doctor, but according to my calculations I would
be due October 20th 2006! A week after my daughter's 8th birthday!
David Jesse born 10/16/2006!
Jessica
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justloribee- Hi everyone, I don't know how many
of you will remember me so I will give you a quick history. I found this board probably about 2.5 years ago. My DH and I were
considering a VR...well it took about a year or so before we were ready (emotionally and financially). Last year in June DH
had his VR done by Dr. Dana Ohl. Amazingly 4 months later we were blessed with our VR angel. In January we found
out that we will defiantly be having a girl.
So here I sit today 38 weeks pg and waiting for my little Sydney (that is
our current choice for her name.)
I haven't been around much but I needed to stop by and offer my story as a glimmer of
hope to all of you wonderful ladies that are still trying to conceive or haven't even made it to the VR yet.
There were
lots of tears and prayers before we got to this place so don't get discouraged if it seems like an impossible dream. IT CAN
HAPPEN!!!
If anyone would like I will get back after her birth to share the rest of our miracle story.
Lori
Julia born 6/13/2005
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kellyds- I posted on the very first Vasectomy
Reversal board at Parents Place in 1997. I was looking around online to see if any archives of that board existed, and I ran
into your site. Neat!
I would like to be of some encouragement to anyone. I have been pregnant eight times since
the Reversal, but have had six miscarriages, so we only have two living post-reversal babies. We had four children
before the Vasectomy. My husband had the Vasectomy in 1997 during a stormy time in our marriage, against my wishes. It's hard
to relate to the people we were "back then", as our relationship has been healed and we are once again best friends. We had
the Vasectomy reversed in 2000, and I was pregnant within a month! I lost that baby and got pregnant again, without even having
a period between pregnancies. Our daughter Faith was born in 2001 and then came five miscarriages in a row before
our son Joshua was born in 2005. There have been no more pregnancies since Joshua, but I am 46 now, so that might
be all for us. We would welcome another!
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kmbrle5- My husband got his Vasectomy in 1999. We met in 2000, only 8 months after he'd had it done. He was
in a long term relationship with a woman that already had two kids and he didn't want to have any himself and made sure it
didn't happen. Robert had a hard childhood, multiple step-fathers in and out of his life, physical abuse and neglect, you've
heard the stories before. In my heart I know that this was a large part of why he got the vasectomy. Well, wouldn't you know,
he broke up with the woman and we met only weeks later. I had always wanted kids, and it really rested hard on my mind that
I knew that he probably couldn't "give me" that part of my future.
I decided
that I liked him so much I continued to date him, and we argued a lot about why he had the operation, and even split up one
time. The problem is by then, I'd fallen in love! You can't tell your heart what it should do unfortunately. I took a huge
leep of faith, and believed that someday it would all work out (either by reversal or adoption) and we married one year later.
Fast forward to Dec. 2003. We were in Washington with his parents/family for Christmas,
and there were so many kids around, I was terribly sad. The whole family was a part of something I may never experience. When
we got back home I started "talking" to him about the options we had. He was NOT happy about the idea of surgery and still
insisted that he'd be ok without kids. I spent the next few months sad and hurt. Even though he'd never been dishonest with
me, I'd been dishonest with myself. I "knew" I could change his mind - and I felt really guilty for doing that to him, and
me.
Anyways, poor Robert started to see that I wouldn't let it go, and
considered doing "what ever it took" to make me happy. I didn't like the reasoning, but I knew inside that he'd be a great
dad and he was just scared - to repeat the cycle he'd grown up in and that he'd be a bad father. I knew that couldn't be true,
he is the kindest person in the world and wonderful with kids!
Robert agreed
to go to Tucson, AZ and have the surgery done with Dr. Marks in May 2004. I had researched DR's for months and decided on
this one. The surgery was painful for him, and he had swelling for a few weeks afterwards and tenderness on the right upper
side. I worried a lot if I had made him do something he'd regret, and I babied him big time after surgery. We waited our 1
month to TTC and then did so here and there, but not charting or tempting yet. This went on for about 3 cycles, then I started
using the ovulation kits. Robert's sperm count had just come back at 25 million total motile sperm. We were devastated at
the low count, but happy that there was SOME there to work with!
In October
I still wasn't pregnant, and my dad had a stroke. I flew 3000 miles back home and ended up staying over 2 months to help my
mom cope. Well, all that time and no BD'ing, the poor little spermies decided to start disappearing, and by the time we tried
again in Dec. Robert's count had gone down to 250,000 (thousand, not millions!). We were crushed and I felt guilty for being
away and putting him through the whole thing for nothing!
Well - wouldn't
you know - tell us we can't conceive naturally - refer us to an IVF specialist - start thinking about adoption - and - Pregnant!
- in January. I had already started looking into adoption and would look at the little faces online every day. It was truely
a miracle. The Dr's were shocked! and so were we! We are now due for a little girl on Oct. 7th, 2005. We feel truly blessed.
How
does Robert feel about having a baby now?? HE IS SO PROUD!! It's like a totally
different person. He is more excited then I am it seems sometimes, telling everyone about my belly, and the ultrasound, etc.
It is a wonderful change and I feel so lucky to be having this baby with such a great man.
Sorry this was so long, but
I wanted to give some hope to anyone who's feeling down today. I wish the best for each and every one of you always!
Emma born 9/17/2005
xoxo Kim
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kris_aries30- Mike had his Vasectomy in May 1999
when his daughter was about 7 months old. Mike and his ex-wife decided two was enough and didn't plan on having anymore
children. They split up in 2001 and the divorce was finalized in Jan. of 2002. We got together in Oct. 2002 and
engaged in Sep. of 2003. We started talking about having children together and making our family complete. We
got married in July of 2004 and a couple of months later decided it was time to start saving for the VR. DH had the
VR on April 8, 2005, and have been TTC since May 2005. DH had a SA done 2 months post-op (June 05). 21 million
total count, 45% motility, 45% morphology. I thank Dr. Carothers and God for the VR being successful.
PG EDD January 4, 2007, It's a Boy!
~Kristi
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lynnister- We chose to have a VR because
we came to a point were we decided we weren't ready to be done having children. With both children getting so big, we miss
having little ones around. We were young (and dumb) when we chose the vasectomy and regret doing it. We are at a much different
place all around: emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc. We are more than ready to add to our family. Now it's time to
be patient and wait for God to give us another family member.
Twin Boys Brett &
Blake born 5/23/2006
Lynn
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mom2skylarandsummer-I am Melissa, 32. My DH Bryon just turned 35. We
have two daughters together ages 2 & 4. When our oldest daughter was 2 she
went into liver failure and had to have a life saving liver transplant. Today she is doing amazing and we are so truly blessed.
But while she was recovering we just couldn't imagine having any more children, emotionally there just seemed to be no way
we could ever handle it, we had been through the ringer. In retrospect we realize that we should have put such a huge decision
as a Vasectomy on hold until our emotions had calmed but we didn't. So my Dh had the vasectomy in or about May of 2004. Fast
forward to around August or Sept of 2005 and our life just began to feel, well normal again. Our daughters both were doing
amazing and we started to wonder if having a reversal was something possible for us. We really wanted to try to enlarge our
family and to have more children to share our lives with. We just felt led to have a larger family. We began reading about
doctors both near and far. Found prices all the way up to $15,000 and that was a bit discouraging. We decided to just sit
our things for a while and possibly revisit the issue later on. On a fluke via
a homeschooling board I belong to a woman emailed me that she had a tubal reversal and where she found her doctor and what
an amazing experience she had. So I went to the site she referred me too which is where I found Dr. Wilson (not the doctor
she used as he does not do tubals) but Bryon and I both were interested. After much thought and emails back and fourth to
two doctors that we had narrowed it down (Dr. Leverett and Dr. Wilson) we decided to go with Dr. Wilson in OK. He had been
through a VR himself, does the surgery as a mission, his price was very reasonable making it easier for us to have the VR
sooner than later and his refund and redo polices were great.
My Dh flew to OK with my brother along for companionship
and any help he would need. He dozed on and off through out as the doctor gave him oral meds to relax. The surgery was done
via a local using microsurgery. It was about 6 hours. Recovery time was not that bad. The drains came out after 24 hours and
the swelling was very minimal. Bryon did take prescription meds for pain the first few days then switching to motrin. He took
it easy and stayed home from work for about 14 days, iced when he had pain and did not lift anything as per doctors orders.
In addition to the VR I also charted my cycles (using the methods outlined in
Taking Charge or Your Fertility by Toni Weschler) beginning in January, to get ready to TTC as soon as he was able. I had
used her methods to achieve pregnancy with both my daughters. I conceived after
our second cycle trying. I just found I am pregnant a few days ago. (We also added the clearplan fertility monitor to
the mix for our second cycle.) We were very happy with our choice in Dr. Wilson
and the fact that there was sperm at the site of the surgery felt promising. I
wish everyone the best of luck in their search to find their perfect doctor and much babydust! Please feel free to email me
if you have any questions about Dr. Wilson or our experience.
Decklin Vai born 12/28/2006!
Melissa
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texaschristy- After Ken's twins were born in September 1993, he and his ex-wife agreed they didn't
need anymore kids. With an 18-month old toddler and now, twin infants, the struggling military family knew a vasectomy was
the right decision for them. Unfortunately, three and a half years later, the marriage crumbled, and Ken was left a single
bachelor with an ex-wife and three very young children. In late 1997, Ken and I met and shortly thereafter moved in together.
I had one daughter, also born in 1993, so between the two of us, there were four children, all five and under. Figuring we
had more than our share of children to raise, we married with no plans to add to our family. In 2001, with the kids now older,
I realized I did want to have more children. I approached Ken for months and then years until finally in the summer of 2004,
he gave in and agreed that we were ready for more children. It took several months to raise the funds to do the reversal but
we did it. In October 2004, Ken's surgery was booked for the day before our 5th wedding anniversary, and we made plans
to travel to the Scott White Clinic in Temple, Texas to have Dr. Bird perform the reversal. At the conclusion of the surgery,
Dr. Byrd advised that the prognosis looked good. He saw sperm at the time of surgery and everything looked great. After a
four week recuperation period, Ken and I began our journey to conceive a child of our own. Five months after the reversal
surgery, Ken had his first SA done. The results showed a 27 million sperm count and 30% motility rate. We are pleased with
these initial results, knowing the reversal was performed eleven years after the original vasectomy. We have done everything
we think possible thus far, and now look to God to take us the rest of the way.
Joshua
Aaron born 10/30/2006
~Christy~
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tiggerbeem74- We, like many, chose to have the
VAS when our 2nd born was only 6 mos old. We were overwhelmed at the time with some bills and let the word of everyone
around us lead us to believe we needed the V. When DH was deployed the first time (2002) he come home saying he wanted
to have another baby. My first reaction was, ARE YOU KIDDIN ME?? I blew him off (bad wife). Told him it was
because he had been deployed and away from his girls and he'd change his mind once home and back in the family routine we
had going while he was gone. THEN, he left in 2004 for yet another year long deployment. At this time, our
baby was in kindergarten and I started feeling something was missing. While he was deployed this time, he once
again brought up having another baby. We started out looking at adoption then looked into the reversals. He started
doing research over there on the net and I did the same back here in the states. He found a doc and sent me the website
and asked me what I thought. After months of research (we did have a year to figure things out) we found a doc we were
both comfortable with. In April 2005 I called and had a phone consult with the lady there. Told her the circumstances
and she was awesome. She set up a physical consult with the doc a week following his return in Sept. and because of
everything else she went ahead and scheduled surgery for last part of Sept. even tho we hadn't paid a dime. (they want half
down before scheduling surgery). He returned safely back to U.S. Sept 4th. On Sept 9th we had the consult with the
doc and Sept. 28th we had the surgery.
~LouAnn~
EDD August 10, 2007! Update:
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