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abundantblessings- We love our children very much and really enjoy them. Unfortunately,
I have had two miscarriages. We were never able to find a BC that worked for us and so our two boys were born 15 months apart. Well,
that was really hard. My DH ran to have a V after Timmy was born. That broke my heart because I have always
wanted a large family. Well the last few years have been hard on our marriage. I finally had to just give it to
God and stop worrying about it. My DH has been called into ministry and is currently attending Nazarene Bible College
online. During this last year his walk with God has really become more intimate. A few months ago I was very late with AF,
which never happens. I prayed and prayed that maybe a miracle had happened. My DH was so excited too. Needless
to say, AF eventually showed up. However, the miracle did happen. My DH said that he really wanted more and that he wanted
to have a VR. We are looking forward to whatever God has in store for us!
akessinger-We
decided after our daughter that our family was complete. We had one boy and one girl and thought we had the perfect
family. After a few years we realized what a huge mistake we had made. Any ways, I finally got my husband on board
and now he is as excited as I am. I tell everyone that asks me about reversal to think long and hard before making such
a permanent decision.
~Andrea
alainajoy- We had 3 children in the first 5 years of marriage. We could get pregnant just by thinking about
it:), but I had difficult pregnancies due to juvenile diabetes. When our youngest was born, we just thought it best that we
not have anymore. I was never sure that I was done adding to our family, but DH was persistent.
Fast forward 4 years, and we both regret doing to vasectomy. We are a very religious family, and feel that we didn't pray
enough about the decision 4 years ago. We were not taking our Heavenly Father's plan into consideration. We could have saved
ourselves huge expense, time, and pain. We both want more (1 or 2) children desperately. DH had the VR done by a popular local
Dr. We were glad to have him recommended so highly, and not have to travel at all for the procedure. He had to do a VE on
one side, which we really were not expecting with the vas being only 4 years old. Then DH had a hematoma the size of an apple
in his testicle. He ended up being in pain and off work for 3 weeks. He is now (7 weeks later) back to work and feeling fine,
but the hematoma is still the same. I guess it will eventually be absorbed by his body, but it's in such a bad place! We are
officially TTC, and are hoping that we can do it fairly quickly. It was so easy before, I'm worried about the monthly heartache
of negative PG test results. But we believe it will happen when the time is right, and we may have to exercise our patience.
Alaina
ali143- We adopted
our DD through our states foster care system. Her Biological Mom will not be allowed to raise anymore children
but she is attempting to conceive again. Our certifier has asked us to consider fostering then if possible adopting
any of her future children if they do not have biological family members capable of raising them. So we've been
waiting, waiting, waiting for our #4. We didn't want to adopt from another family incase that BMom continued to
have babies too. So we decided to have another biological or try to and if our DD BMom does give birth and we do
to then we'll have two babies.
-Ali-
ann_michele- We decided to
do this in order to truly let God decide whether or not we will have another child.
Ann-
babygrimm- I really
thought I was done having kids after my last daughter. However, the more time that goes by the more I want to have a baby
with my husband. He doesn't have any kids and his parents have no grandchildren and if we don't have a baby they will never
have any grandchildren of their own.
*Becci
bobnsherri-
We have both been married before and now would like to have a
child (or two!!!!!!) together.
Bob
butterflysecrets-
We recently have gotten married and I have not biological children and we want that. I am not getting any
younger..so, we are hoping to get this done this year.
-Kelly-
cnkncnme- Cory
and I were married young and had both of our girls right away, just 13 months apart! Late in my pregnancy with our 2nd DD,
we decided that two children would be enough for us and scheduled Cory for a vasectomy. Looking back, it was such a foolish
decision!! We were young and newly-wed, having babies back-to-back and we were in the middle of a job transfer that
was moving us from our hometown of Atlanta to San Francisco! Life was chaotic, to say the least! I remember at the consultation
appointment with the urologist he strongly advised us against the V, but said that he would perform it against his better
judgement! Of course, we were SURE of what we wanted, lol. Once life settled down and our youngest was about 18 months old
I started really regretting the V, though I kept it to myself. After a year of making sure it was really what I wanted,
I finally got the nerve to talk to Cory about it! He was surprised and not so thrilled. He agreed that it had been
a mistake to have the V, but at the same time he still had little desire to have any more children. He adores our girls and
was very content with just having the two of them!
For the next year and a half I continued to pine away for another
baby while Cory still resisted the idea, but didn't absolutely shut the door on it. Every once in a while he would start talking
as if we'd do the VR one day, but I could tell that it was very strained on his part and that it really wasn't where his heart
was at. Finally, I became so emotionally drained that I gave up! I continued to pray about it, but I no longer brought
it up. It felt good in a way, to finally give up "control" and just let God take care of it. And about 3 months
later Cory came to me and said that he really, truly wanted to have another child! We've been so happy in our marriage
and so in love and we thought it would be an incredible experience to actually plan and have a baby now that our lives are
much more settled.
From there, we did the research and chose Dr. Gatewood to perform
the VR. Originally we had planned to wait for early summer to TTC (to give ourselves some time to settle into our new
house...our 5th move in 6 years!) but we just couldn't wait so we started TTC right away!
~Andrea~
dcc71394- Both of us feel very strongly that the Lord is leading us to have more children. We both really want a child
that is "ours" We have left the reality of that child up to God. If it is meant to be then it will happen and
if it isn't then we have both decided it is God's will and we are fine with that. We both also agree that we will only
do this procedure once.
Donna
dixiedawgie-
My husband & I had talked about having children
but could never come to an agreement together. He wanted more but I wasn't sure. We gained custody of his 2 sons in January
2006. Being a Mother to them has really made me want to have a child of my own. He had his surgery before I met
him & together we have decided to have it reversed in October. It has been a great decision that has been thoroughly
planned. I can't wait!
Jenny~
doulatillmon- My husband had his VAS done in his previous
marriage.We found each other and want to share the experience of a baby together. Also all the kids want another brother or
sister.
-Kristen-
gapeachpc-When we met, he had
his Vasectomy. Children have always been a dream of mine. He brought up that he never wanted the VAS to start
with and was willing to have a VR (that was date #3). The rest is history.
Patricia~
guntheros- We decided to get the vasectomy reversal soon after we were married (we talked extensively about it before we
were married). I have never had children and even though it took my husband a while to get used to the idea of "pitter-patter"
around our house, he is now ready! I can't wait to become a mom!
Nicole-
happygirlivy-
Well we are so thrilled to start this journey!
I had a really hard pregancy the 1st time due to a endoctrinal problem then had a reaction to the epidual and almost died
giving birth. So needless to say--we said that would be the one and only child for us. My husband immediatly got a Vasectomy.
Now 2 1/2 yrs later that problem we thought I would always have is all better!! Completely controled and the obgyn said there
is no reason I could not get preg and have a healthy preg. When we heard that we were CRUSHED!!! We were so made that we took
away that option to ever try again!!! So we prayed, cried and talked about it alot! Finially decided we needed to undo our
mistake. So I did research on drs and found Dr Roeder that works with Dr L. in New Branfuels. I have heard great things about
him and his staff has been so kind already with answering all my questions! We had our VR on 10/3/2008! That is my little story.
hubbswifey-
We talked when we first got together about kids.
He has always wanted more, but not with his ex wife. I have always wanted to be a mom, and want to have my own kids.
We talked about a reversal since the beginning of our relationship. Before I married him, he agreed that we would do
what we could to have kids together. We had our VR on August 6, 2008 with Dr. Cary Leverett in New Braunfels, TX.
In November/early December we found out that James has Leukemia and that the VR failed. We had a biopsy in December
to bank sperm to be used later for IVF.
Katie---
ibake4u- We decided
to do this in a hope of adding to our family. We decided before we were married that we would have VR done, but didn't
decide when. It is something we've prayed about and discussed. We initially started looking around and decided we couldn't
afford it for a while. I prayed and prayed about it, and last week, I started searching again and there on the first
page were stories about doctors who did VR as part of their ministry for less than the $10,000 we had planned on!!! I
was thrilled. The Lord sure has a way of doing things in His time. We are now praying for the Lord to lead us to
the right doctor. My hubby just began a new job, so it will be a while before we can get the time off needed to do the procedure.
*Shaunna*
j_duncan- Our Story:
It started out that DH was NOT going to have a reversal at all. He has two boys and he is fine
with that. He did not want to go through the pain of the surgery again. I came to him about a year and a half ago
with the idea of artificial insemination. We spent weeks reviewing information on potential donors and picked a few
potentials. We started doing inseminations in July 2003. We tried for a few months, but unfortunately a friend
of DH was staying with us at the time trying to get back on his feet after a divorce, so needless to say it was a tad stressful
around here. My doctor thinks I had a tubal the first month(the only month we were without the friend), but we had no
luck whatsoever after that. We were doing it at home as I didn't want conception to be clinical. I didn't want to
tell my child years down the road that he or she was conceived in a doctor's office. I think now that we may have had better
luck if we would have done it at the doctor's office. Anyway,
one night just after going to bed, DH stated that he was kind of glad we had failed thus far as he had been thinking about
it and he would prefer our children to be his too. He stated that he knew that no matter who the biological father
was, he would be the dad, but he just wanted them to be his if it was at all possible. He then stated that he would have
a reversal. The funny part was that he felt he needed to sell me
on the idea, so he started telling me that with the donor vials being so expensive for just one little vial and that
he makes the stuff constantly free of charge. lol So, I did some
reading up on it and since I work for a doctor, I discussed with my boss who would be a good choice to be doing this surgery
for a reasonable price. My boss suggested Marshfield Clinic as they are supposed to be really good. I called and
set up an appointment with a local doctor for a consult in May. We went in for the consult and I swear the doctor was
on drugs. DH felt so uncomfortable with the idea of this man having a scalpal in his hands and close to the very tender
areas. DH told me no way was he going to let that man do the surgery on him. So,
I called and set an appointment for a consult in July at Marshfield Clinic and we went in and talked to Dr. Seelen who
was very understanding and took the time to answer all of our questions. He had wonderful bedside manners. When
we left the clinic, DH said that he felt really good about the surgery and really liked the doctor too. So, October 28th DH went in for surgery. Unfortunately, he had an infection that
we didn't know about before. Apparently, when the VAS as done, the doctor didn't cauterize one side very well and he was leaking
down into his sac for the last 12 years and it was building up and becoming a solid mass. So,
that had to be removed. It tore my heart out to hear him screaming all the way out in the waiting room. I later
found out there was nothing they could do about him being in pain at that time, they were trying to anesthetize the infected
side when he was in so much pain. Thankfully, they were able to get all of the infection out and he has had no problems since.
According to the doctor, everything went back together
really well and he has healed up quite well. He hasn't felt any pain in months thankfully. We have not had good numbers yet, but we are confident that they will get better with time. The doctor
has asked that he have another SA in March. He states that sometimes it takes time to get back to normal.
Julie
jans5normal-
We started having children young we had our first at seventeen, then twenty one,
then twenty three. Each time our pregnancies were met with more family grief. Around the time right before our last pregnancy
I met a woman she posed as a mentor and turned out to be more of an imposter she is the one that suggested having a vasectomy.
Being young, poor, stupid, and impressionable We thought: we get pregnant easy, we have little money, we have no place having
more children. What is even more ironic about this woman is she regretted her own husband's vasectomy. I met her in Church
and the normal thing for strong people of faith is natural methods of family planning. Wake up Julie!!! I later figured out
this woman had major issues! She wanted to end my child bearing because hers had been ended.
Anyway
when our little guy was less than one DH went and had it done. I never went to his pre-op or anything at the time my husband
was not the man he is now. I was so in a fog about what was happening, but one thing I will never forget is picking
him up I felt so weird about what had happened in such a short time. Now our fertility was gone. We had based our vasectomy
on different circumstances money and current situations something that you should never base such a permanent thing on.
This also later helped me with the woman if she was so strong in her faith as she professed then she would have said wait
on the Lord. It was a very strange time in our life.
DH had always had intermittent pain after
the V. More than a year ago we started to regret it. Seth became convicted by God that what he did was wrong and that
his motives were wrong. Shortly after that time he began to suffer from Post Vasectomy Pain Syndrome. Well,
this may have been the best thing for us. Although it has caused him much pain and really put a wrench into the works of our
life it has been the GREAT MOTIVATOR! Seth had no choice but to see a doctor. I searched the net and found a doctor that is
knowledgeable in PVPS about 3 hours away from us he is also a doctor for male infertility and microsurgery. After medication
and injections nothing worked the only true hope is for Seth to have a reversal! We finally got approved from our insurance
company and are awaiting a surgery date.
We believe God may have used the pain to help us restore
what we destroyed. Now are goal is for Seth to become pain free, living with chronic pain is an awful life changing thing.
We are hoping for a successful surgery that would leave my husband pain free and fertile.
Thank you for reading my story
~Julie
jennybear2008-Jay wanted to have a VR because he wants more children with a wife and to have a complete
family without issues.
jjgilbert04-
After our Third child my DH got a Vasectomy, not to my approval. Ever since
he got the V I have been feeling depressed knowing that I would not have another baby. Everyone around me was getting pregnant
and having babies. I wanted another one so badly. DH did not he said NO way. Then my ^DS^ 7 gets sick with Cancer. To be exact
a Diffuse Pontine Glioma a rare tumor in the brain stem. It took Cody in Three months. I was crushed. My little
boy gone forever?! I feel into a black hole that I could not get out of. Then one day I told DH that the only thing
that Would make happy again was another baby. He Said NO I don't want to go through that again. What if the new
baby gets sick too ect... So I finally told him this feeling was not going to go away and I did not want to ignore
it anymore. So finally he agreed to get the Vasectomy Reversal. So now we are in the middle of planning on how to get the
money together for it. It's not as cheap as the Vasectomy.. Go Figure! In this process my DH is getting
more and more exicted about the thought of another little baby.
EDD
April 4, 2007! It's a BOY!
Jessica
joeswoman1998- I'm not sure what made us decide to do this, I must have been trippin'.. :)LOL... Seriously, Children are the
only thing I've ever wanted, until I met my DH, it didn't seem to matter as much, I knew he had the VAS and fell in love
with him anyways...I didn't know that they could be reversed until he asked me to marry him, when he asked me to
marry him he told me that we would someday have it reversed, it took six years, but he kept his promise to me. I would
have married him even if he hadn't said that... but I am glad he did...now we are just having fun TTC:).
I just want to add a "GOOD LUCK"
to all the couples out there thinking about this or who have already gone through it and are now on the TTC road.
Robin
johnsonnelly- The original V was immediately following a very early m/c. I was 20 and DH was 23 and we just decided with the 2 young
boys we were done. We didn't want to have another m/c. At that time I thought that if you had one you would keep having them..:o)
I was sorry about the V within a few months and over the years it has weighed heavily on my heart to have another child. I
started working on DH about 3 years ago. He was happy to be done but on the same token really doesn't care if we have more,
he just wants me to be happy. So he agreed to have the VR and here we are! I know that the Lord has given me this need for
another child, I don't see any other reason that a person living with two teenagers would want to do it again..LOL :o)
kathyannkelly- Mark and I were married pretty young - right out of college when we were 22 & 23. After we got married, we
also went into the ministry. Mark worked as the assistant pastor at the church where we grew up. We loved it, but
we lived in a tiny little apartment and we had no money and no health insurance. Well, six months after we got married, we
had Nathan. Then when he was 10 months old, I was pregnant with Brianna! Having those two so close together was
really hard for me. I didn't have a lot of mentors to look up to. Nathan was a very strong willed toddler, and Brianna
cried and was sick ALL the time. As people in the ministry at our church, we were "expected" to have it all together
- and we were also expected to have well-behaved kids. Well, Nathan was only 2-3 years old at this time, we had no idea
how to discipline him, and he was NOT well-behaved! We felt a lot of pressure, and also, I was struggling with feeling
like I wasn't "achieving" anything as a stay-at-home mom. I felt guilty that I no longer could really contribute to helping
around at the office, etc. Our apartment was so small, and we had no yard where the kids could play, so I was also stuck
in a tiny house with the kids all the time. Anyway, then when Brianna was 2 1/2, I found out I was pregnant again. I
am ashamed to say this, but I actually told my husband to think of the worst possible situation that we could be in, because
I had just found out that we were in it! He knew right away that I was trying to tell him I was pregnant. I told
him - we are not having more! So two months after Braden was born, he got the vasectomy. We were only 27 & 28
years old at the time. Within two months, I knew I was going to regret the decision. By the time my menstrual cycle started
up again, I was praying that the vasectomy would fail. When Braden was almost one year old, our family moved to a different
church in New York State where Mark is now the senior pastor, and I teach at the Christian school that we also have. We live
in a nice house with a lot of land, we have health insurance, and we make enough money to support our family comfortably. Hind
sight is 20/20. You think your present circumstances will never change, but sometimes God wants you to learn things through
hard times. Well, once we moved here, I knew we had really blown it. This is the perfect place to raise kids -and
I wanted more! Plus we both began to feel like it was wrong to take our fertility out of God's hands. It took my
husband 2 years to agree to do the surgery. We had it done in Texas with Dr. Leverett. Hind sight again...I wish
we had waited to have a more skilled doctor perform the surgery, and I also wish we had gotten SA's done right away. We
waited almost two years to have our first SA done, which was last month. Mark has a very low sperm count with low motility,
but he has been working on bringing it up and we are hopeful that the medicines and vitamins are working. If we don't
get pregnant this year, however, we are also saving for a redo.
*Kathy
kandittc- My DH has a child from a previous relationship, who I love dearly. He is a wonderful
boy and I wouldn’t change him for the world, but it hasn’t always been easy to raise him when I am just 10 years
older then him. Me and DH used to be very poor and barely had enough money to eat and pay child support. I never really had
a desire to have children and we didn’t think that our finances would ever allow us to responsibly have a child of our
own. This combined with my age difference with my DH (10 years) lead us to believe that we would never be able to have children
before DH turned 40 (his own personal cut off date). So with me being 21 and DH being 31 we made an appointment with a Urologist.
We felt that getting a vasectomy would be the best way to insure that we didn’t get pregnant since we couldn’t
afford it. Fast forward 3 years,
about 6 promotions for my DH and a whole new career for me and we are now doing very well. We have a beautiful 4 bedroom house,
two cars, money in the bank and very little debt. About 6 months ago we started to realize that we can afford to have a child.
I can even be a sahm is I want. I realize that my step son is getting older now and I’m just not ready to stop being
a mother. I keep thinking about how I missed out on the baby years with him. So now I have the drive to have a baby and bad!
I talked to DH about it and we both agreed to start looking into getting a VR. It took us about 3 months of internet searching before we made the decision to use
Dr. Wilson in Muskogee, OK. Initially DH wanted to be put out completely,
but with the price difference he agreed to be awake since it meant that we would be able to do it sooner. I’m
thrilled to say that DH as his VR on 2/12/07. He is healing great and we will be able to start TTC next month.
Kandi~
kerryleighnc- After
my daughter’s birth, my husband and I decided our family was complete. My last pregnancy had been hard on me. It
was a healthy pregnancy, but I suffered from a separated pubic symphisis which became a permanent condition. This separation
caused me to have extreme discomfort from my 4th month on. It has continued off and on to this day. It can be improved,
but would take surgery to repair (I’m not willing to do this). So, when my daughter was about 4 months old, my husband
had a Vasectomy. We were both happy with this decision at the time.
The first year was fine. Occasionally,
I felt a pang of regret, but I quickly remembered the continuing discomfort which was sure to only get worse with the next
one. I knew people endured more than that to have children, but I had my three and felt relatively content.
This past year, I’ve begun to feel more regret. Especially when I began to realize that this would be about the
time I’d be getting pregnant based on my past history. So, some of this decision was longing for a baby, but it
is much more than that that has brought me here. In the past I’ve known people who had held the conviction that
they trusted God to determine their family totally and greatly respected them. I respected them, but felt God could work through leading us to the decision to have a vasectomy, too. Slowly, however,
I began to realize that the real heart of the issue was that we had NO idea what God’s will was for us in this area.
We hadn’t turned to him when we made the decision to end our childbearing. Perhaps God might have led us to the vasectomy…but
the point was, I didn’t know! I hadn’t asked Him! So, I decided I would seek His will on this. As I
did, I occasionally shared my thoughts with my husband. He often responded that he thought I really should be content with
what I had. But he didn’t say it was “out of the question”.
Then on Oct
31st , 2004 my husband said, “If you are willing to have another baby, I’m willing to have the reversal.”
I was shocked! My first thought was “OH, no…he’s taken this too far!” Then “oh…geez,
now the rubber really hits the road.” Finally I said, “OK! I think I can do it!” He said he’d
been thinking about it some and spent part of the evening (I went to bed early) just quietly before the Lord. The Lord
led him to the realization that it is a gift to bear and raise children and we need to be good shepherds of that gift.
He’s agreed to
help me with my exercises that should help with the separation injury and to get in shape in general.
But the craziest thing is this…the week prior to this decision my husband’s company folded. We found out
that the company would be paying everyone through the end of the year and then severance on top of that. That would
give us 3 months + of pay. And even if he got another job, he’d still get that pay. Well, guess what
– he has a position starting the next Monday. So, all that extra money – we can use it to pay for the reversal!
How the LORD provides!!! Now I just need to get my self as healed as I can…and get psyched up for another pregnancy! Ladies,
I’ll need your encouragement! I look forward to another baby –but the pregnancy I could do without.
Oh, one more thing –we just finished giving away all our baby stuff. ALL our baby stuff. Well, ok we do still
have the Pack and Play –but it is currently in our church’s nursery. I mean literally the crib went to Goodwill
last week. Is that funny or what?!? I guess some of that money will go to refurnishing! My sweet neighbor said,
“Hey now you can have a baby shower!!!” She’s so sweet.
So, Erik had his consultation
with a local urologist and was referred to a Dr. at University of VA. A very impressive resume! I’m sure he would
do a good job, but I just didn’t have a peace about it. Saw many people on the VR board mentioning Dr. Gatewood and
who happy they were with him, so we checked him out. DH and I agree –he’s the man for us! So, we are
scheduled for the reversal Jan. 5th, 2005. The day before Epiphany. This is an important date for us. The Lord
has always given us special days on which our other children were conceived. To me this just speaks volumes about His
plans for us!
Kerry
kim_mom3girls- Well
after our third daughter was born my husband felt very strongly that he wanted no more kids because he really wanted a son
very badly. I know that sounds bad but he loves his girls but just wanted a son. So I was against it but went along with it.
Right after the surgery I broke down and regretted it and told him. But at that time we thought it was permanent. So years
pass and God places on my heart that we are to have another one. So I begin researching and find out it is reversible. But
my husband said absolutely not. This caused a little rift in our marriage. I prayed and was persistent for 3 years. Finally
God changed my husbands heart. I was so surprised, even though I shouldn't have been. So in the fall of 2005 we started looking
and we chose ICVR for their success rate. We went to Dr. Burrows. It was a wonderful place with caring people. I just new
we would get pg right away. So when month after month passed and nothing I was discouraged but didn't give up. We tried clomid
with the trigger shot. We thought our timing was perfect but still nothing. Well after two years of trying I just couldn't
do it anymore. I thought maybe I was wrong about what God wanted for us. So I closed that door in February of 2008. I was
ok with it. Little did I know what God had in store for us. On May 27th I decided to take a hpt. I knew I wasn't pregnant
but I was a week late and I had been sick off and on. I just thought it was premenopaus. I had been having some minor medical
issues so just wanted to rule out being pregnant because of some of the medication I was taking. When that second line came
up my mouth dropped open and I was in utter shock!!!!!! I couldn't believe it. I showed my husband who was ecstatic and jumped
up and down. This has been an amazing journey. It has strengthened my walk with the Lord as well with my husband. I know the
journey isn't over.
~Kim~
kmk5113-My husband had his vasectomy when he was married before.
I have no kids, but I was born to have kids – I’ve wanted kids since I can remember. On our second date my husband
told me he’d had a vasectomy, but he’d be willing to have it reversed if the time came. He’s always known
I wanted kids and all through our relationship he’s always said I want you to have kids – so I’m willing
to have more kids. Only recently has he started expressing his own desire to have more kids independent of my desire! We thought
we would have to wait much longer because of the expense of the surgery – but finding options like Dr. Wilson in Oklahoma
has made it possible to pay for the surgery much sooner than anticipated and we are just thrilled about that. When I first
heard about Dr. Wilson I was a little uneasy about using someone just because they cost less – but reading all the wonderful
experiences from the women on these boards made all the fear disappear! We probably won’t start TTC right away after
the surgery (we live in a one-bedroom condo), but won’t actively try to prevent pregnancy either. We really want to
get this done asap to help ensure a successful reversal.
knsokamura- I have always wanted
children, but changed my mind for a year from 2005-2006. When I realized that I may be miserable if I do not at least
try, we got on the ball right away. Dr. Burrows got us in for surgery in four weeks. Now, we are just learning to
be patient.
Kim~
lisa_mom2five-I never wanted the vasectomy, but understood
my husband's desire to have it done since he felt overwhelmed with the responsibility of providing for a wife and five children
age 8 and under. I always felt I was meant to have more and I thought God would intervene supernaturally and I would end up
pregnant despite having the vasectomy. That never happened and after a long and difficult journey these last seven years,
we decided to have a reversal. We decided it was time to undo what we had done years ago. Although I want another baby so
badly, we are taking it one step at a time. I haven't been ovulating, according to temp. charts, and so we haven't decided
what we are going to do, or not do, about that.
love1more- My
brief story: I am an only child who has always wanted a big family, I married way too young after getting Pg and having
a baby at 16 and 19. Divorced at 22. Met my Dh Erik and married again at 24, followed by baby 3 at 25 and baby 4 at 27. At
this point I was a little overwhelmed and not very wealthy, and we caved in to family pressure to have the Vas. DH has
now had a great state job in a new town for the past seven years and I have been rethinking the Vas for about five years.
We have done some foster care and I know DH would not do well with adoption. He finally started saying "if"......and
I knew it wouldn't be long, so my Valentine/Anniversary gift was to make the appointment!!!! Oh Yeah, this is soooo
top secret my parents would have a fit and try to talk us out of it. I plan to tell them when I can feel the baby kick,
(when they get over the shock they will be thrilled). Wish us luck, I will pass it along.!!! UPDATE- FEB 09--After two reversals (one double VV 4/07 and one double VE 3/04/08) We are pretty sure a baby is not in our future. At this point,,we
will not pursue any IVF or other expensive treatments, as we already have 4 healthy children to support. It makes me
a little sad to write these words, as I started this journey with such hope. There is still a small part of me that prays it
might still happen (and it could,,God is in Charge), but the planning and obsessing about it is over!! I do
not regret the time and money spent on this dream, and would still encourage others to "risk it" if that is what their hearts
lead them to do..I have met many wonderful people and some have experienced a whole new life after reversal. Through
this, my Husband has recommitted himself to me and has earned the praise of many of our close friends,"He must really love
you" LOL. Having children has been my greatest blessing and I will forever be thankful to my Heavenly
Father for making me a mother!! Good luck with your own journey toward parenthood.....and may you be blessed!!
Kim
mamazags- DH had the VAS when we had a 4 month old, a barely 2 year old and a 5 year old….Now I tell all my friends
to wait until they don't have a baby anymore to make the big decision. We didn't
ask God for help in making our decision and regretted it within months. After
about a year of talking, praying and crying about the VR my DH gave in. We
are currently seeing a fertility specialist and doing IUI, may do clomid. I had a high FSH test a few months back, but more
recently all seems normal. DH and I are taking a million vitamins and herbs,
doing acupuncture, and eating very healthfully. DH has a good count but low motility and 40% antibodies.
Update: PG w/TWIN BOYS! EDD 11/17/2007~ 1st IVF worked!
~Jordan
manyxsblessed- Our 3rd baby was born with severe reflux, and stomach emptying problems. He threw up all day everyday and night. During
that time we decided we could not have another with a special needs child. Our son ended up having surgery and at 4 he is
doing really well and we regret the vasectomy. So, we just had it reversed!
megg650- Ross has not had any
children and had a Vasectomy with his first marriage as his ex-wife did not want children. We know that our chances are really
slim, given the length of time since his VAS, and our ages, but we have the attitude that "we'll never know if we don't try"...and
hey...the trying sure is fun!!
-Mary Ellen
meshell4kids- We lost a daughter in 2007 and thought we could not handle lossing another
one...so we had the Vas and immediately wished we hadn't...so now we are reversing it ASAP.
~Michelle~
michellems1972-
We had married and had our kids pretty much one right after the other very young. When we found out I was PG with
the 4th we thought"OK this is it!" We had the V done while I was still preggo with #4. Over the years I regretted it but was
always able to "pull myself out of it". Well finally I just couldn't span out of the baby wanting stage--I think my biological
clock went into overgear when I turned 34! So I brought it up to DH--he was reluctant at first, but agreed to get the VR. I
researched different Doctors and kept coming back to one in particular. Dr. Dennis Streeter. He did not do microsurgery, he
used the Loupe magnification but he has done thousands of reversals and I just "felt" he was the one we were to us. Well here
we are 3 months post VR with a BFP!! He might not be the right choice for everyone..but in our case he was!!!
EDD
12/26/2007! It's a Girl!
~Michelle
minnesotawildgreen- My
husband and I have been together for over 8 years. We were both going through a divorce
when we started dating. His daughter was 1 and I was a few months pregnant when
we moved in together. After my son was born we decided that Charles should get
a Vasectomy because both kids were gone on the same weekends and at the time we really enjoyed having every other weekend
as our alone time. So when Hunter turned 1, Charles had the Vasectomy. We were married February 14, 2002 and still very happy with our family. In August 2004 I opened up a family daycare in our home and Charles had a lot of late nights at his new
demanding job. Over the course of the last two years we have had our ups and downs
and recently I lost my grandmother and grandfather. My grandmother had always
wanted me to have more children and I really felt a large loss when she passed away. I
had also started doing daycare for a new baby girl and we both fell in love with her. Charles’
ex and new husband had a baby also; so of course my step-daughter started asking when we were going to have a baby and then
she got my son excited about a baby as well. My ex did have another son with his new
wife a few years ago but the baby passed away at six months due to SIDS. So I
always felt that Hunter should have a baby brother or sister; not to replace the one he lost but so he could have the joy
of being a big brother again. All of these things started Charles and I on our
discussions of getting the reversal. We are older now; we don't have the free
weekends together anymore because we both work so much; watching our kids get older and need us less and less every day makes
me yearn for them to be babies again. Charles and I really want to blend our
family together and make an even stronger bond between us and our children. We love
each other more and more every day and another wonderful way to share our love is by creating a baby together.
Jennifer-
mom2boys77-
After we had our 2nd child 4.5 years ago, we didn't have a lot of money and would not have been able to afford another child..I
got pregnant very easily..so my DH thought it would be the best thing to have a Vasectomy. It was regretted almost immediately.
Our son was only about 2 months old and we just weren't thinking clearly. As time went on, our financial situation changed
significantly and we were very sad that we couldn't have another child so we started researching our options and decided to
have the reversal.
~Barbara
mom2caise- We
just changed our mind about having 1, Well, I did........and he slowly came around!
~Tonya~
momofthreeangels-When our first daughter was born, I
was 18 & my husband was 25. He was still in college & things were pretty rough financially. In Feb of 1998 we had
our twins. I was on bedrest for three months & they were 8 weeks premature. By this time I was 20 years old, Frank was
27 & we were physically, emotionally, & financially drained. We felt that we were done having kids so Frank had a
Vasectomy. As soon as we left the doctor's office I new that we had made a mistake. 2 years later we were doing much better.
Frank had a great job that paid very well, & I stayed at home with our children. I started to feel like I really wanted
another child ( or 2) LOL! I went on the internet and started researching vasectomy reversals. When I first asked my husband
about it, he said that there was no way he was going to have another surgery. It took him about 2 more years of listening
to my mouth before he finally said that he would get a reversal. One day he just looked at me & said, "I love you &
our kids so much & I'm honored that you want to make another baby with me. Now let's go practice!" LOL! He had one condition.
He wanted to wait until we purchased our first home. We finally did that in August of 2003. In May of 2004 we called Dr. Gatewood's
office & scheduled his VR. 2 days later my husband was laid off!! We had to cancel & I was devestated. Now he's with
a great company & he gets to travel. We are now planning the VR for 8/05. Hopefully nothing major will come up between
now & then. We plan to start ttc right away so hopefully I'll be posting a BFP.
Gracie~
mrspriest- We have 3 children between us,
but none together. We both felt like we needed one of our own to make our family complete. Surgery is scheduled for 4-3-08. We chose Dr. Leverett in TX.
Praying to God that everything works out right, and we get to have another little one!!!
~Amanda~
nlbco-This is complicated. Dh always wanted 3 kids. I was sure I only wanted 1. After dd, dh refused to settle on one so
I agreed to 2. I was very back and forth about a 3 but after a lot of thinking (and not enough feeling) I convinced dh that
2 was enough....mostly for money reasons and dh wanted me back at work ASAP (I want to be out until the youngest is in school).
Well, even the day of the V we were unsure but I said, "Do it, so I can stop thinking about #3".....dumb, dumb, dumb. For
a year or so, both of us would make comments here and there about having another kid. He'd joke about it or I'd bring up adoption.
Finally, I seriously brought up getting the V reversed. The thought of not having another one was really starting to upset
me (I think because I was getting to the point where another felt doable, whereas right after my 2nd I was NOT thinking about
another). So, after A LOT of back and forth we decided to do the consult. Dh finally agreed to the VR and scheduled it. Then
cancelled it one month prior thinking about money. Then, he went away with some buddies for the weekend and came back
all emotional about having another (very strange for my dh)...so, we rescheduled and had our VR 10/3/2008 - almost exactly
2 years post-V. I don't know if it'll work, but I'm happy to be trying. If it doesn't, I think we will leave the idea of having
#3 behind and move on...
parisfor30-
All the pieces have finally fallen into place. I never thought there'd be a "perfect time" which there
probably isn't, but now I feel so ready!
Kim~
portia9-
I always wanted five kids but DH wasn't sure. We had three boys and he was going to have a
Vasectomy when I had an unplanned pg in Oct 03. I wanted another baby after that so we agreed to one more and our daughter
was born in Oct 04. DH had the vasectomy in March 04 while I was pg. From the time she was born I had hoped that the
Vasectomy hadn't worked. When she was around 2.5 I was enjoying my family and trying to accept that we weren't having anymore
children. Once Freya turned 3 though I was struggling. I wasn't ready for that stage to be over. I spoke to my DH about reversal
and he was very hesitant. I brought it up a couple of times and he wasn't keen. So I just stopped talking about it and prayed
for a resolution to the situation. Two days later my DH came to me and said he would be willing to have a reversal. He
then started talking about a couple more kids instead of one! I looked into a few doctors but felt very comfortable with the
information Dr. Woolcott gave on his website. We contacted his office in December 07, he spoke to John soon after that and
surgery was scheduled for January 2008. Our doctor is confident about having sperm present but emphasised that the biggest
factor was female age. I was extremely fertile previously but now I am unsure. Because I felt like that was behind me I am
just not sure if it will happen. We are really hoping for another two children but obviously that depends on how long it takes
for us to fall pg. It feels amazing to have that hope back. Thanks :)
*Yvette
rfchevy11-
We've decided on a VR so that we can have a child of our own. He had his Vasectomy
too young and was pressured into it, and now we both want one more child. I love my family as it is now, but we would love
to have an addition. After searching online, I've stumbled upon this wonderful group where I feel free to ask questions and
get quick detailed responses, which has given us even more hope for our future.
Mandy~
safire_sun- We decided to reverse after I started wondering why we had the V and wanted to give my DD a sibling closer in age.
I wish I had found this board before the V, but life sometimes leads you down a certain path for a reason.
-Jill
sunshine2500- DH had a VAS when he was married
to his ex. I knew that he had a VAS when we got together, and asked him if he was willing to get a VR. He said
that he was, so now that we have been married for 6.5 years, it is finally time!
Tina
september-3- Well we had the Vasectomy because I had an in home daycare and there was just no time for anything
else. Well, I decided to stop that and around the same time my SIL was having her first. I started really thinking I wanted
another. I told Kelly and he was kinda like, ok. And he did everything to get it done. I just wish we would have never had
it done in the first place.
PG EDD 11/17/2007
September~
shaniazmom97- We each have a DD but want to have one together and I have always wanted more than one.
*Theresa*
sheshe75- Although my DH has 2 sons from a prior marriage I do not have any children of my own. So, we are doing this to be able
to have children of our own together!
Sheila~
theomalleys- We have two wonderful little girls, and made the decision too soon after our youngest was born...she wasn't even a
year old. As the girls got older, I started to regret the decision more and more and wanted to add to our family. I
thought I'd get opposition from my DH, but he was fantastic about it. He said he'd made promises when we got married,
and that if I wanted to add to our family, of course he would do anything necessary to help. Surgery was a lot to ask of him,
and he's just been a champ about the whole thing. We're so excited, and have already picked out names for the new baby.....Quinlan
(Quinn) for a girl, and Michael for a boy. Mike and I are really hoping for a boy this time around, but our little girls
would really like another girl....mostly so they don't have to commit to sharing a room forever (since a little boy would
eventually need his own girl-free space...hee hee). We're both a little stressed about the added risks that having another
baby at *our age* brings, but are trying to stay positive about the journey ahead!
Update: EDD 11/8/2007 It's a BOY!
-Serena-
therealestatelady-
Since my husband and I started dating in 2004 we spoke of having a child together and adding to
our family. His ex wife convinced him to have a vasectomy after their daughter was born, his only child (she had a son
from a previous relationship). She moved Darla to VA last year, which was devastating
to my husband. We put off a reversal due to the cost, the doc in our area charges over $5000. Then I went onto
Babycenter.com and found a male infertility blog and learned about Dr. Wilson. We were so happy. We immediately
took steps to set up our date and will be flying to OK on 3/16 and returning on 3/18. It will be a bit of a whirlwind
trip, but well worth it. Would love to hear from anyone that has used Dr. Wilson and have had success in getting pregnant.
*Denise
tolisemarie-I
have always wanted twins: a boy and a girl, ever since I was a kid. I never met the right man that I wanted to have
kids with until God brought Ray and I together as each other’s soulmates. He has kids through a previous marriage
and when he was a teenager. He did not want kids with his last wife but then changed his mind as time passed.
I told him the day we met that I wanted children. He said he did too. There is a lot more to the story but let me shorten
it by saying it is a miracle we are this close to making an appointment!! We are both Christians and believe God brought us
together for a reason. I would imagine we should also be fruitful and multiply! Thank you and God Bless You All! J
Tolise Marie
trulyamazed87- After three tough deliveries and 3 beautiful
children, DH had Vas in 1996 to try to protect me from pain, against my wishes (I submitted outwardly but not with my heart).
I struggled with bitterness for at least 5 years until I forgave him in my heart and he asked forgiveness.
He said he told God what he was doing and asked Him to bless it. Still wanted VR but DH wasn't led to do that but God never
let up on him. In 2004 God changed his heart and in Oct. 2006 we flew to TX (God Bless). Dr Leverett ministered to us and
performed the VR -We love him!
Anyway, a month later I was PG! I never imagined- I we just
wanted to give God control, I honestly had a hard time hoping for a baby because I was afraid to be disappointed month after
month. But people in our church and everywhere were so excited. We heard over and over again, "This is a sign that God is
blessing you for your obedience." I thought I had trusted Him with the size of our family but the real test came New Years
Eve.
I woke up for Church with spotting. My Husband is our Pastor
so I convinced him to go on to church. The night before we had . . .so I wasn't too worried. I prayed to God for Him to keep
my baby safe and He gently reminded me WHERE my baby would be safest. So I knew.
Anyway, over the next two horrible days I miscarried. I had
to decide - Do I really trust Him with the size and welfare of my family and the answer is YES!!!!!
An amazing Pastor - Tom Harmon - challenged me to memorize
Philippians 3:30-21 this summer. Our Citizenship is in Heaven from which we await
savior, The Lord Jesus Christ, who will transform our lowly bodies to be like His glorious body by the power that enables
Him to subject even all things to Himself.
Little did I know then how that verse would minister to me in my hour of need.
EDD
*Michelle
trying2beattheodds- We we very young when we had our three daughters and now we feel that our family is incomplete now that we are older
and that our children have grown up. We never though eight years ago that the desire to have another child would be so strong
as it is now, but we have looked at our options from adoption to having our own and unfortunately having our own is the cheapest
way to go in order to make our family complete. It was so devastating that it came down to dollar signs in our adoption journey
and that is how we ended here.
~Christine
ttc_no.1-
Just had VR done two weeks ago. I am hoping to add a sucess story soon.
*Shyla*
winyahmama- My
DH comes from a "perfect" family (one girl & one boy). I am the oldest of five. He would have liked one boy and one girl, but when our second son was born, he
realized he really wanted a daughter and so said we could try one more time. Shortly
after our daughter was born and several church friends were heading in for a vasectomy, my dh rushed up to get his done. My
heart was very heavy at the thought of it being done,but I didn't want more if he was totally against the idea. After
a few years my yearning for more babies continued to grow, but I only
talked about it with a few friends and never my dh. After more and more discussions with friends, I was growing
more and more discontent and started dropping hints to my dh. He would joke that I better start praying for the Lord
to reconnect him (as He had done with my dad!). A few years ago, I was involved in a Bible Study on contentment and realized
that I had three healthy children that I had the privilege to raise, and that if the Lord wanted us to have more than He would
have to change my husband's mind. Fast forward to last May; I convinced DH to attend our annual state homeschool convention
with me so that he would get a bigger picture of how we've been educating our children, and new ways he could help with it. Instead, he was blown away at the number of larger families
in that community, their success in raising "all those kids", and how they have been a testimony to even the Christian community
of putting complete faith in God. The weekend after returning from the convention was Mother's Day and he wrote in my
card, that he would be willing to get a reversal if that's what I really wanted. I was overjoyed but realized that he
still wasn't at that point that it was what he really wanted, so I waited and prayed. The Lord brought a new friend into my
life that has been on the same journey. She loaned me a book "A Full Quiver-Family Planning and the Lordship of Christ". This finally
put words to what I had always felt in my heart. I shared parts of it with my husband but still said very little about
the idea of his reversal. Finally in October, he very determinedly, said that we should start looking for someone to
do the VR. I had already done lots of research so I showed all that to him and on my birthday we made our first call
to Dr. Wilson. So much else has gone into this journey that I feel I hardly scratched the surface...we started a large
addition to our house, next month dh lost his job, starting his own business, financial concerns, but the Lord continues to
show us that this is His plan for us. Last week, we almost postponed our VR for the fall, but then had a confirmation
that we should go ahead and keep our Feb 22nd, 2007 date. I am so excited!! The Lord is faithful!!!
~Denise
wndypmbrk- We knew very soon after the "V" that we made a bad decision. We where very
young 18 & 22. Our family really convinced us this is what we needed to do. We already had an 2 year old & I
had just 2 weeks earlier given birth to our daughter, we had a boy & a girl and were struggling financially. I guess
@ the time we just didn't think about the future and that things change. We started really regretting our decision probably
a year or so later, but knew nothing about a reversal even being an option until about 4 years ago and even then I thought
the cost would be just way to far out of our reach. Then about 6 months ago I started doing some research
online and found the Blessed Arrows website which had VR Dr's who do the procedure as a Christian Ministry
at a reduced cost. That's how we found Dr. Stanton, who was awesome. We just recently had the surgery performed
and cant wait till we can start TTC.
Wendy~
zionchaser- I
come from a fairly large family, there are five of us and my husband comes from a very small family, there are two. I should
have guessed there would be a debate on how many kids we would have however during the dating period we always said three.
After marriage we decided to have a baby and got pregnant the
first month trying. Our first son was born and we were both very happy. We talked about waiting 3 years to get pregnant but
when my son was about to turn two I was ready to have another one. My DH agreed and again the first month we were pregnant
again. Nine months later another little boy was born. During the pregnancy my MIL kept saying that we were going to have a
VS after the birth and that my dh really needed to do it. After the birth my DH said it was time and despite trying to
talk him out of it agreed thinking that we were done.
I couldn't ever get the idea of having another baby out of
my head. We talked about adoption and foster parenting however whenever we checked into it, there was always a problem and
I was always lead back to a reversal but I thought it would cost too much for what we could afford. I tried to convince
myself that I was happy to be done but knew deep down inside that I wasn't. I prayed about it silently for many years and
kept thinking that one cycle I would end up pregnant. I called and checked into the cost of a reversal with a local
urologist and was shocked to find out that it actually was a lot more affordable then I thought. I was so excited! I
finally approached my DH and it didn't go well. He said flat out "No way" I am not doing it. I was very upset and basically
tried to ignore him for several days. I got some very biblical advise from a friend and she basically told me that no matter
what my DH said if the Lord wanted us to have more children it would happen. She said to go back to him and apologize and
just to ask him to pray about it. I immediately went and spoke with my DH and just asked him to seek the Lord. He came
back a few days later and had a complete change of heart. He now talks about many, many children...HA!
We have decided to go to Dr. Wilson in Oklahoma and look forward
to our VR in July 07.
Blessings,
:Shayley:
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